In Virginia we don’t have a legal separation; however, in order for a couple with no children to divorce after only 6 months, they do need a separation agreement. This can be a simple piece of paper saying they agree to live separately and have divided their property equitably. Today that document was signed by both myself and Mr. Mess.
He chose the located Starbucks as the meeting place, and texted me with no notice that he was going to be there for 30 minutes if I wanted to meet him. I zoomed over, paper in hand.
When I walked through the door I saw him sitting at a table with a laptop. I don’t remember him looking so old. The gray in his scraggly, untrimmed facial hair was incredibly obvious. His hair was sticking in funny directions. His face was drawn. I sat down, passed some things across to him, and in less than 5 minutes it was done!
I left smiling ear to ear and fighting an urge to jump, squeal, and run around like a crazy person screaming “I’m almost free” at the top of my lungs. :) I’m on my way to divorce and couldn’t be happier.
I am so happy that you are so happy! Count your blessings that you don’t have children to complicate things…you have no idea (and neither did I) how complicated that does make things, even when you aren’t married.
On another note, I want to plead with you here to NOT stop blogging- you really are a great writer, and I would miss you terribly. Think it over.
Don’t worry, I won’t stop. Its just not going to be ax frequent. There are many, many wonderful chapters of my life ahead.
yay!
So happy for you and the update
I also agree with me below
Your blogging gives me hope
I’m beyond happy for you. You deserve so much in your life and you’re on your way to making that happen.
your happiness is the best evidence you are making the right choices. good for you!
It’s nice to read about someone who recognizes what a good thing righting the path can be. I’m glad to see you’re happy!
Yippeee! Some closure and freedom all wrapped up in one! Congratulations!
Congrats!
Your joy is contagious…so keep spreading it!
I have just awarded you the Very Inspring Blogger Award. Check it out on my link http://infinitesadnessorhope.wordpress.com/2012/12/19/belated-acknowledgments-and-thanks/ CONGRATULATIONS!!! Cate xox
Thanks sweetie!!!
you’re very welcome.
I am so happy for you that you found the way to, well, make *you* happy. Well done! Wishing you all the strength you need in the near future to get through all this.
When i see a betrayed woman eventually kick the ass of a cheater out of her life i go ..YIppee.
Recovery and change i have realised are hogwash..doesnt happen.Just lines the pockets of counsellors and rehab guys and gives a free pass to the cheaters.
But we all have to go through the rites of “recovery ” “counselling” etc etc before we see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Kudos to you for coming out at the other end and not getting stuck inside for the rest of your life.
And now that you are at the other end you may like to take a look at chumplady.com.She writes amazingly well.
Hugs.
Thanks so much! I have a tendency to agree with you. Definitely about my husband.