What Makes Me Beautiful?

4 May

So yet again, a topic on a forum has given me something to think about.  The question came up, “What makes you beautiful?”  It made me pause.  What does make me beautiful?

Having an unfaithful partner can make you wonder what is wrong with you.  It makes you question whether you are pretty enough, thin enough, sexy enough, and the list goes on.  I know in my head that there is nothing about ME as a person that caused my husband’s infidelity.  I understand that his almost non-stop porn viewing habit while he turned me down was not about me, my body, or my sexuality.

Still, I wonder sometimes about my intrinsic value as a person.  It is hard not to be critical of my shape or my weight when I am surrounded every day with media and images that virtually scream that a woman’s worth is directly tied to her beauty.  There is constant advertising that tells women that if they just change this or that they will be desirable, and their whole world will improve.

“Women’s” magazines are plastered with headlines like “lose weight fast,” “get a flat tummy,” and the promise that this haircut, this makeup, or this piece of clothing will fix your flaws.  They even slim down and Photoshop the super models and celebrities who are a size 2 to begin with.  With all of those things constantly barraging us, how do normal women even stand a chance of feeling beautiful?


In the same post I mentioned earlier a very good point was brought up.  Someone said, “I want the world to recognize my beauty, but first I have to believe it myself.”  So I asked myself what makes me beautiful to myself?  When I actually started thinking about it I realized that there are a lot of things that I admire and love about who I am right now.  Without changing a single thing.  Here are some of them:

  • I have a beautiful singing voice.  It is reminiscent of Martina McBride and Carrie Underwood.  I am a vocal powerhouse.
  • I am confident.  I could stand up in front of a crowd of strangers and sing my heart out without fear.  I am also glad to be who I am despite my occasional moments of self-doubt.
  • I have beautiful hair.  It is a deep, dark brown that is almost black.  In the sun some of the strands hit the light which brings out auburn undertones.  And it is completely natural.  I don’t ever have to touch a bottle of dye.
  • I am unique.  I am who I am, and it is different from everyone else.  I have come to embrace my quirky.
  • I am devoted to my family.  They are the most important people to me, and I show it all the time in many different ways.
  • I have a very womanly body.  It is curvy, well-proportioned, and looks great in a pair of jeans because I have an ass that fills them out wonderfully.
  • I am smart.  I graduated from college Summa Cum Laude.  On a full scholarship.  While working full-time.
  • I am ambitious.  I bought my house when I was 19.  I am driven to be the best.  I don’t know what the future holds, but I know it will be good things because I won’t accept any less.
  • I have a little hump on my nose.  I used to hate it because I thought it was a flaw.  Now I see it as part of my unique beauty.  It gives me character.
  • I have freckles that come out strong in the summer.  Again, I used to hate these.  Now I find them endearing.
  • I have a beautiful spirit.  I keep pushing through things no matter how hard they get.
  • I am compassionate.  I feel other people’s pain and can empathize with what they are going through.  Some people can’t do that – my Dad being one of them.
  • I am an adventurous soul masquerading as a home-body.  I love to travel, see new places, and experience new cultures.  At the same time I am always glad to come home and curl up on the couch.
  • I am strong.  I am finding the strength to get through this bad situation.  Every day I realize this a little more.
That is certainly not an exhaustive list, but I think it’s a great place to start.  I already feel better about myself.  This also reminded me of another great song from Sara Evans that I blasted from my radio for a few months:

It became my mantra – I’m getting a little bit stronger.  I’m done relying on him for my feelings of worth.  I have everything I need inside of me already.  I know now what I will and won’t accept.  I know that I will be okay no matter what happens.  There is nothing he can do to take my beauty away or make me feel like I’m not enough.  Because I am.

This might be really hard for some of you, but tell me, what makes you beautiful?


9 Responses to “What Makes Me Beautiful?”

  1. WORKING ON IT April 15, 2015 at 11:34 pm #

    I have never heard that song. I love it, and I love the 180. I am 5 weeks in to this confirmed infidelity situation and wanting to reconcile, but know that ultimately I need to get to the other side. I will be stronger and smarter for it no matter what ultimately happens with my husband and I

  2. chasynleigh September 14, 2012 at 2:59 pm #

    I love that Sara Evans song too.

    • beautifulmess7 September 14, 2012 at 3:00 pm #

      I rediscovered her with her newest CD, and I fell in love with her style and voice. I need to get in the car today and just blast that CD again. 🙂

  3. Hope August 15, 2012 at 6:14 pm #

    You ARE beautiful! 🙂

  4. emotional tornado July 6, 2012 at 5:59 pm #

    I think this is wonderful. I am impressed that you feel this way, it gives me hope. I don’t feel anything lovely right now at all. Just how long does it take to feel beautiful again?—I know there isn’t answer to this.

  5. recover1day May 4, 2012 at 5:44 pm #

    I can’t hit the like button enough. I love this post. It rocks!!!

    • beautifulmess7 May 5, 2012 at 11:51 am #

      Thanks! I hope you are thinking of things that make you beautiful. It fels really nice.


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