Today we are going to Retrouvaille. It is a weekend program that is designed to help couples in distress. On the website it says, “Retrouvaille attempts to re-establish trust and communication in damaged relationships… It operates from the premise that most marriages can and should be saved.” Here is a more extensive description:
What is a Retrouvaille Program?
The word Retrouvaille™ (pronounced re-tro-vi with a long i.) is a French word meaning rediscovery. The program offers tools needed to rediscover a loving marriage relationship. Thousands of couples headed for cold, unloving relationships or divorce have successfully overcome their marriage problems by attending the program.
The Retrouvaille Program consists of a weekend experience combined with a series of 6-12 post-weekend sessions over 3 months. It provides the tools to help put your marriage in order again. The main emphasis of the program is on communication in marriage between husband and wife. It will give you the opportunity to rediscover each other and examine your lives together in a new and positive way.
We signed up for this program in early May. We were doing really well in our recovery then, and this seemed like a really great tool for strengthening our marriage even more. Now it feels like a lifeline that might get us back on track.
Communication. Such a simple idea. Talking. Sharing. Confiding in each other. Yet Mr. Mess’s lies are like a brick wall between us that we have to scream through to hear one another. Maybe this weekend will help with that. At least I hope so.
Despite reading just about everything on their website and speaking to other couple’s on forums who have gone, I still don’t have any concrete idea of what to expect. I do know that this is a religious-based program, which makes me worried since both of us are on the agnostic/ atheist scale – me more so than my husband (I’m a full-blown atheist to the core). I’m a little worried that I may shut down if they try to ram religion down my throat as the solution to all of this. Others who have gone say the religious tone is very subtle, but subtle to them may not feel subtle to me.
I have decided, though, that I’m willing to come out of my protective shell for this weekend and be emotionally naked. One weekend can’t hurt me but so much, right? All I can do is give it my all and hope for the best. I don’t know what the result will be. I’m not sure what I have to offer. I wonder if I’m too far gone to reconnect to what we had before all of this. But I’m going to try.
We will be departing around 4:00 pm Eastern Time on this journey. Wish me luck!