One of my favorite blogs to follow is Daily Divorce Meditations. Even before I had officially decided to divorce, I gained such strength and insight from her words. Yesterday this post caught my attention.
It really resonated with me. Tonight I’m at an S-Anon retreat where we listened to a CD on emotional sobriety. It is amazing and I’m going to share it when I go home and track down the link.
Afterwards we got into a deep discussion (which is still continuing). One topic that came up is when do you know when enough is enough if you’re a giving person? How do you care for yourself and others? When do you know it’s the time to give up? How do you reconcile taking care of yourself with not “abandoning” the addict? My thoughts went back to the above post, specifically this section:
If I have given my all, if I have tried my best, if I have done everything in my power to make something succeed over a significant period of time and it still isn’t working… then I have to be honest with myself, put my ego aside, and admit that maybe this is not the right path for me… that maybe… it is time to give up… and that my Higher Power is trying to point me in a different direction… a better direction… my true spiritual path that I am choosing to ignore by being resistant to giving in due to my own stubborn self-will.”
I can admit now that the path I was on was not the one for me. I am glad that I gave up on the unhealthy relationship in my life so that I could make room for a better relationship, a better direction, and a better life.