I just wanted to check in and let everyone know that I’m having the time of my life and just enjoying myself. I have decorated my house for Christmas, done some shopping, thrown myself into work (which is paying off big time), and I am staying so busy that my head is spinning. But it’s all good. I think I’m going to cut way back on my blogging because now that Mr. Mess is gone so is my angst and indecision and internal struggling. I’m singing all the time and just enjoying my favorite holiday. I hope everyone out there is doing great as well. Hugs!
My cute little Christmas tree.
Being a Beautiful Mess 
Good to hear you’re singing all the time, letting the joy in your soul come out. Plus, you’ve got a great voice 🙂
Thanks Bennie! 🙂
I for one am going to miss your blogging. Not the angst…but your insight and way with words. However, I know where to find you so…
But…I am *SO* glad to see you so happy. I know how much everything was bringing you down. And as your friend, it hurt to see that. And to see you happy makes me feel good. You’re an amazing person. You deserve so much in life. And, though I hate that you’ve had to go through this muck, if it weren’t for the blogging world and SI, we never would have met, so in that sense, I’m glad we made that connection.
I adore you Beautiful…keep singing as often as possible. And at your divorce party, I want to hear you sing!
I agree!!! I won’t ever wish away this part of my life. I can jam to Carrie Underwood’s Undo It in my car, but I’m glad I don’t have that option. I gained friends and insights into myself and strength and courage and so much more from this.
I also am not completely gone from here, I’m sure. There are still truths about myself to discover. I will still have Mr. Mess in my life in some way until April. I am still in therapy and S-Anon. I haven’t stopped working on me. Its just a much more peaceful journey.
Someone told me early on that in the blogging world happy is boring. I think that’s true. There is so much less to write about when there is no drama in my life. I like it that way, though. 🙂
So glad you are singing and having fun!
Me too! 🙂
Sorry for all the misspells. Blogging from the phone is never easy!
Oh, I agree. The stupid auto correct never corrects what it should and makes matters worse as much as it makes them better.
Im so glad to hear it! Im a newcomer to your blog , but ive.been reading a lot on here. I keep feeling like im headed in the same direction. In fact, im still in tje relationship, we have 2 very small children, but as I started reading morw about this addiction and other blogs, I keep asking myself why do we stay? It seems inevitable that without sincere life long.commitment to change, tjey mever truly do, so knowing when to surrender the marriage and salvage.your life is always the burning queation.
You hit the nail on the head. Without a sincere, lifelong commitment to change, rigorous honesty, and a great support network they won’t ever change.
My husband (soon to be ex) could never get to the point where he was honest with me. I can’t live without honesty. So there was our crossroads. I wasn’t willing to accept more empty promises and he wasn’t ready for a sincere commitment to truth and recovery.
The question you have to answer for yourself is where that crossroads is for you. A lot will depend on him, which I know is scary. When they choose the path you don’t want to be on, though, you have to find the strength to walk your own.
Awww
How nice for you
Glad to hear how all that mess is no longer causing you angst.
I too am heading towards that goal
It feels wonderful! I hope you find the same peace and happiness.